“You heard them . . . didn’t you?”
“Yes, I heard them.”
“They won’t have it. The world won’t come to an end; it can’t possibly collide with another world because—well, for one thing, it has never done such a thing before, and for another, they won’t have it. Not when you dwell upon the details. They won’t have it.”
~From When Worlds Collide by Phillip Wylie & Edwin Balmer
In a story I won’t dwell on or give space to, enemies of the notion of Black women dating interracially recently made sure we “heard them” via a pseudo article that was simply a thinly veiled attempt to bash Christelyn Karazin, blogger extraordinaire and co-author of Swirling: How to Date, Mate, and Relate Mixing Race, Culture, and Creed. Just as the rogue planets in Wylie and Balmer’s 1933 classic were on a collision course with planet Earth, so the various rogues, trolls, and internet nomads roaming the web are doing everything in their power to detract from, obstruct, and even stamp out the “choose character over color” message of Karazin and other interracial relationship advocates.
No, “They won’t have it,” yet the message that Black women have options is getting through nonetheless through such notable women as:
- Interracial blog pioneers Evia Moore, blog mistress of Black Female Interracial Marriage, Halima Anderson of Black Women’s Interracial Relationship Circle, and Khadija Nassif of The Sojourner’s Passport.
- Christelyn Karazin, whose blog, Beyond Black & White, boasts over 250K hits per month (she and co-author Janice Roshalle Littlejohn recently signed a movie deal for the book Swirling)
- Newlywed Elise of Integrated Memoirs
- Eugenia Berg of Married Girl in a Weird World
- Cher of Black Women Deserve Better™
- Deborrah Cooper, Author and Relationship Expert
- Dee Dee Russell, San Francisco bohemian filmmaker and creator of Black Women With Other Brothers
- Domestic goddess Mary Ellen of The Working Home Keeper
- The sagacious Toni_M of Petals
- The elegant Zabeth, author, blogger, and relationship coach
These and many other pro-interracial dating and marriage bloggers inhabit the other world, the world that is proudly marching on despite the repeated rumblings and threats posed by the wannabe colliders. This world – this brave, new world, if you please – will continue: Stalwart and unflinching; poised and ready to speak out concerning the gas lighting practices designed to keep Black women in a perpetual state of confusion and dismay, and to speak up regarding alternative choices and options Black women can take to attain the happiness and fulfillment they so richly deserve.
The main characters in When Worlds Collide managed to build a spaceship and escape the pending disaster. They left their doomed world and found a place of habitation on another planet. Thanks to the messages of hope and inspiration proclaimed by interracial dating and marriage advocates – and the living, breathing, successful examples that many of them demonstrate – Black women are embracing the fact that they have the opportunity to expand their options, make relationship choices that serve their personal best interests, and achieve their fullest potential. And that, my friend, is my world.
Join in the Fray:
Which of the two worlds are you living in? Is anything “colliding” in your world?
Copyright © 2012 Michelle Matthews Calloway, All rights reserved.
